How to Win an Argument
Posted on March 26th, 2009 by Paul
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The art of arguing is easy to practice but challenging to master. People argue everyday, but not all of them can claim, “I have not lost a single argument for quite some time now.” You can be that person. As long as you can prove a point and sway your verbal sparmate over to your side, the argument is yours.
Control the Conversation
Being in control of the conversation gives you much leverage over your opponent. The flow of topics are at your disposal. So when your opponent starts making a strong point, comment on it a little then switch the angle of the argument. The switch buys you some time to think of a good retort. As for your opponent, he or she may get distracted by the shift, in effect sapping his or her momentum. Grab the opportunity to add supporting details by switching to various topics. When you have a solid point, return to the original angle of the argument then overwhelm your opponent’s main point.
Question, Extract, Go for the Kill
In business, the less words you use, the less mistakes you create. Apply that theory in your arguments. Start off by merely asking questions, letting your opponent spills all the beans. He or she is bound to say something wrong, perhaps an inconsistency or a double standard. Piece by piece, extract every faulty statement that he or she uttered. Counter each of them individually, so your opponent will lose momentum and confidence. When he or she is trapped, strike him or her down with a solid point then ask the killer question, “So what do you think?”
The Witty Disagreement
Telling a flat no to your opponent may only stir him or her to strike you with a decisive point, which may sway your disagreement to something less. You can’t let your opponent get that leverage. Instead, agree with your opponent’s point partly then slide in your argument, as if it were an upgrade or the more comprehensive side of the opposing argument. Your opponent will lose steam early on, so dominating him or her will be a cinch. Remember, whatever happens, don’t let your opponent recover.
Set General Statements First
General statements are flexible, fitting several specific points, even opposing ones. Open your argument with a general statement, as you explain a few points. Your opponent will expectedly jump in, countering your argument with another general statement. Instead of defending, sucker your opponent in stating more specific points. Collect all that may fall under the statement you made. Connect your statement to the specifics to your argument then exclaim a decisive, “Now you’re only making my argument stronger.” Your opponent’s focus will then shift to untangling his or her points that you connected to your argument. You, on other hand, can go on the offensive. The argument is yours after a few moments.
Choose Your Battles Wisely
These four strategies, effective as they are, won’t always ascertain victory. Make sure you have extensive knowledge about a topic before entering an argument. Remember, your opponent can introduce concepts that are foreign to you, if you’re not very knowledgeable about the subject. Some of them may not be true, but you won’t know. So choose your battles wisely. You’ll eventually own anyone as you expand your knowledge and wisdom through learning and experience.
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