How to Last Longer in Bed

Posted on January 16th, 2009 by Marck

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Men brag about how long they can keep themselves from breaking into orgasm, while women talk about multiple orgasms all in one night. You wish you could join in the conversation, but you really can’t brag or talk about your unsatisfying and perhaps even humiliating sexual experiences. You seem to be unable to satisfy your partner, or you can’t last as long in bed as other people do.

Sexual performance is very important to many people. Mind-blowing orgasms and sexual satisfaction only come when you have enough stamina to fully enjoy sex. If you have problems delivering the goods during sex, here are some tips to help you last longer in bed.

Enjoy the Act

Poor sexual performance does not automatically mean impotence, sterility, or fragility. Even the healthiest people can suffer from poor sexual performance because they focus too much on the results rather than on the act. Don’t think of sex as a contest where orgasm is first prize; instead, focus on having a great, passionate, intimate time with your partner. Sex should come naturally, and you should enjoy every bit of it. Having a healthy amount of sex can also help improve sexual stamina.

Break Out of Ruts

If you have sex the same way each and every time, you cannot improve your sexual performance. Variety and novelty can help you and your partner enjoy sex, although it only works if you and your partner agree to it. Here are some ideas that can help you improve your sexual performance and increase sexual stamina:

Sexual play. Adding a bit of kink and depth to sex can help improve sexual performance, as long as you and your partner both consent. You can try adding costumes, story lines, and even role playing to sexual experiences.
Stimulate the senses. Sex is as much about sight, smell, sound, and taste as it is about touch. Use your imagination whenever you’re setting up the venue for sex; use scented candles, have a bowl of fruit on hand, or try having sex with sexy clothes on to add more depth to your night of passion.
Change locations. Sex is not limited to bedrooms. Whenever possible, try having sex in other rooms of your house. You can also try having sex outdoors, as long as it’s legal and you won’t be offending the sensibilities of your neighbors.
Change positions. You may not think much of sexual positions, but the right sexual position can do a lot to help you maintain arousal and sustain your peak sexual performance. As long as you and your partner consent to experiment with various ways of having sex, you’re good to go.

Keep Yourself Healthy

Sexual dysfunction and poor sexual performance both have something to do with the state of your mind and body. All the aphrodisiacs and sexual performance enhancers on the market won’t do you any good if you don’t keep a healthy mind and body:

Physical health. Your physical health and well-being have a lot to do with sexual performance. Eat foods rich in B-vitamins, protein, iron, zinc, and other minerals that are proven to improve your sexual function.
Emotional and psychological health. Stress and other mood or emotional disorders can have a dramatic effect on your sex life. Sex should be relaxing, not stressful; settle personal and work-related issues first before having sex to best enjoy the experience.
Healthy relationships. If you find that you’re struggling to keep pace with your partner during sex, you may have a problem in your relationship. Chances are that you need to patch things up with your partner first, and try to fix the problems in your relationship. Once everything settles down, all the other pieces of the puzzle fall into place.

If all else fails, you may need to consult a doctor. Frigidity or erectile dysfunction need to be treated with medication and therapy.

Sex may be underestimated by some and overestimated by others, but it’s an important part of any intimate relationship. With these tips to help you improve your sexual stamina, every minute you spend in bed will be the performance of a lifetime.